SEVEN (7) URGES SINGLES MUST RESIST: As a single guy/lady, you might find yourself confronted with these urges I want to mention. Being born again &having the life of Christ in you might reduce the intensity of some of these urges in you but once in a while, like your other fellow singles, you might find your self fighting the same urges. You must resist any of this urges with all your strength , with a determination and with the power of God inside of you.

1. Resist the urge to double-date: You might be in a relationship where it appears your partner is not serious or really committed. There is this urge you might feel to double-date. You may want to have an 'extra tyre' relationship with the hope that, if this one fails, you will just switch over to the 'extra-tyre' lady/guy. It is a dangerous thing to do. If your present relationship is not giving you needed peace and bliss, wisely quit the relationship. Get healed and move to another one. If you chase two rats at the same time, you might loose the two and also break your legs. If you are not grooming yourself to have a polygamous marriage, resist the urge to double date. Also resist the urge to be an 'extra tyre' to any guy or any lady.

2. Resist the urge to masturbate: Yes, you might at one point or the other have the urge to touch yourself & bring yourself to sexual climax and orgasm. You might see it as a 'lesser evil' compared to going into fornication. Know this, you cannot masturbate without being lustful. When you masturbate, you will have to focus your mind of one guy/lady or one sexual encounter or film you have watched or you are watching. With that, you are polluting your mind with lust. You can have a successful single life without masturbation. I am a living example. When the urge comes on you, resist it. Channel that strength into something that will add profit to your destiny.

3. Resist the urge to watch pornography: There are times you will come across some 'soft' porn. Your friend might send you the link. You might 'stumbled' on it somewhere online & you feel like watching it. I beg you, don't watch it! It has addictive power. From one link, you will move to another link & you might spend a whole day looking for more pornography to watch. If you have pornography videos or pictures on your phone, right now, receive the urge and the power to delete from your phone in Jesus name. You can't have sharp spiritual eyes when you use your eyes to watch those porns. Porns destroys purity. Resist the urge to watch pornography!

4. Resist the urge to expose your breasts or your cleverage. : As a lady, don't follow those who say 'if you have it, flaunt it'. There is this urge many ladies bow to today, that urge that tells them to 'show something', to reveal 'little'. Don't let anybody tell you that; you will get a decent man by exposing your breasts. If that's what brings a good man to a woman, all the prostitutes should be married by now. Don't bow to that urge of nudity. You are a princess, never step out of your house like a prostitute. By their dressing, we can know them. Those who are walking half naked today started somewhere. They started by 'showing something little'. Don't dress as if you are undressing. It is a way to undress your destiny. Put sense in your dress. Guys, thou shall not sag!!!

5.Resist the urge to send your nude to anyone! : If you are a Christian, you know this is a line you must never get to, not to talk of crossing it. But let me speak as if I am speaking to both Christian and other youths. Sending nude pictures is very common among singles in dating and courtship this days. No man has authority to feasts his eyes on your nakedness when he has not marry you. Sending nude is one dangerous thing that even married folks dread doing. In this age where relationships breaks easily like breakable cups, never deceive yourself that your nude pictures are safe with anybody. If you feel that what I am saying is a trash, just ask yourself, if my nude should leak out on social media, can I stand the shame? The danger of sending nudes is not only in the fact that your partner can use it against you if the relationship go sour , another fear you should have about doing that is the fact that, a phone that is with your partner here in Lagos now can be in another person's hand in Abuja in the next 2 hours if such phone is stolen and you know once that happens, the information on that phone can be used to mar your life and public image. We can say that, nothing is absolutely safe with anybody. No matter your level of intimacy with that guy or lady, resist the urge of sending your nude to anybody. You are warned!

6: Resist the urge to have pre-marital sex: Yes, sex is fun, exciting and sweet. But, it is for the married not for singles. It is normal for you to have sexual urge. But resist the urge to satisfy that urge through pre-marital sex. You can't die if you abstain. Don't join your spirit with someone who is not your spouse. Fornication will bring frustration because it is a deviation from God's instructions. 'Flee fornication'! (1 Corinthians 6: 18a).

7: Resist the urge to live a purposeless life: In the 80s /90s, they will say, ' A fool at 40 is a fool forever'. Now, in this 21st century, a fool at 16 years can be a fool forever. Many singles are passing through this life like a snake on a rock, no traces! No mark! They are passing through life like a bird in the air; no mark! No impact. A life without a bearing is a burden. What gives life a bearing is purpose. Refuse that urge that wants you to sleep, wake, eat, play and sleep. By the time you are 25 years old, you should have stepped your two legs in your purpose and people should know you for one thing you are pursuing in life. 'The purpose of life is to have a life of purpose'. Don't live a purposeless life. It is the mother of life frustration. You are not here in this world to be counted among the crowd. Stand up, stand out! Run back to your Maker and tell Him to show you why He created you. Don't let the summary of your life be like that of Solomon Grundy in this nursery lyrics:

Solomon Grundy,
Born on a Monday,
Christened on Tuesday,
Married on Wednesday,
Took ill on Thursday,
Grew worse on Friday,
Died on Saturday,
Buried on Sunday.
That was the end,
Of Solomon Grundy.

Live a purposeful life. Your world is waiting for you.

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